I want to share a story with you. It really struck a chord with me.

It is a story about losing. Yet, at the same time winning.

How can this be?

Can you lose and win at the same time?

Losing or Choosing?

A close friend of mine recently told his group of friends that he passed up a promotion.

More interestingly, he was happy about it. Really?

A friend chimed in, “Why are you happy that you didn’t get promoted?”

He replied, “Because I wasn’t trying to win at work.”

Mouths were agape. Follow-up questions flew, “Why? Don’t you want to be successful? Don’t you want to be a winner?”

He replied, “I did win… I chose to win at home.”

He smiled and turned to go home to his wife and 3 kids.

Winning In All The Wrong Places

We are conditioned by society to do everything in our power to scale the corporate ladder.

More work. More pay. More effort.

Yet, we do this at the expense of our family. Our relationships. Our health. And more.

Why do we do this? When is enough, enough?

As the cliché goes, “On their deathbed, nobody says that they wished they had spent more time at the office.”

Or put another way…

“Should have spent less time making loot

And spent more time in my birthday suit …with you.”

- Train

When you are older, will you wish you had spent just more time at work?

Or with those that you love?

It’s a choice you make today. And every day.

Knowing Where To Win

My friend passed up a prestigious high-paying job. However, it turns out that this position required 75% travel, some of it overseas.

His coworkers were stunned when he turned down the opportunity. However, his wife and three kids were overjoyed that he would be home more and not on the road.

Sometimes you don’t lose, but you choose to win in the right place.

Are you winning where you should be?

Better yet, do you know where you should be winning?

Question: Where are you trying to win? Where should you be winning?